Confidence is the Bully Defense Tool

From Braselton to Hamilton Mill across Hoschton through Flowery Branch bullies are pretty much the same. These children use either their size or bad attitude to push others around to hide their own insecurities. .Bullying is the use of force to intimidate, threat , or aggressively impose domination over others. It consists of 3 types of abuse verbal, physical, or emotional. I will not go to deep into the psychological profiles or reasons for why they do what they do. I want to talk about one of the defenses you can use to keep from getting bullied, "CONFIDENCE."  If you walk through life down the halls at school or down the street or in the mall with your head down , you show lack of confidence. The I do not want to be seen or do not look at me is a target indicator to the bully looking for a victim. Do not be that victim keep your head held high, not saying stare-down and be all confrontational. As I was told by my HapKiDo Instructor and by his Instructor and by there Instructor, "Walk with a purpose." These words has led many a student to get to their destination with little to no confrontation. Some bullies have been bullied themselves and hide it by finding someone to bully to again regain control of their lives. Some have a hard home life and lack the self confidence themselves to be sociable. So back to the word confidence, certitude, assurance, self-reliance, belief in oneself.

This one attitude or belief makes for a powerful tool or remedy in the world of bullying. If you have the confidence it shows in every aspect of your life. Shows from the way you walk, the way you talk how you carry yourself. Do you have your head up that's confidence. Walking around with head down is lack of confidence or some determine a social fear. the people that try to make it through with out being seen are usually the ones getting bullied. That is what a bully looks for low esteem to boost their low esteem or social ineptness. On the other side of the coin a person with confidence does not feel the need to bully a person or the situation. The sureness they feel in one self helps them to reach their goals on their own merits and not impose their will through threats. With their poise and leadership quality will have others wanting to help or follow, as opposed to demeaning a person to do what he or she wants. Martial Arts helps with self confidence through proper assurance and reinforcement.

Some say there is strength in numbers but  then again the Bully will pick out the weak one in the pack. What I mean by weak one is the person again showing little to no confidence, the shy away from looking at someone person. Yes it is good to be with a friend walking the halls to help against being bullied. Martial Arts helps to build this confidence in you and your child by giving the tools to feel confident in yourself.

Choe's HapKiDo of Flowery Branch and Braselton

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Sung Boo, Instructor Anthony Rivera 

Instructor Pattiann Rivera

(770) 967-1700

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